Last week we had our cherished friend Clare over for dinner and heard all about a wedding she had recently attended. She told us about how the vicar at the service had offered great relationship advice and suggested that instead of a quick, 'love you!', trying, 'I love you because...' and a reason.
This struck a cord with me. Marriage is not my strong suit. I'm quick to temper and even quicker to point out Matt's flaws. I say loving things and so does he but I think after 9 years of being together and hearing them daily that the gravity of their meaning gets lost.
I realised that for all the frustrations I (sometimes unjustly) have, I don't do the things I want most to have for myself. I want to feel a bazillion per cent wanted and be appreciated for all my good qualities, whilst having all my bad qualities ignored. The dream right?
I find it so easy to think gorgeous thoughts about people but find it so challenging to say them to them. So here we are, still not really saying it to him, pouring it all into my blog which, sometimes it seems, I write mostly for my own therapy and sanity. I hope you don't mind.
I'm sorry I don't always communicate the really deep stuff with you and I'm sorry I automatically expect you to do that for me.
I love you BECAUSE you take care of all the little things like taking plates to the dishwasher and fetching me my laptop charger.
I love you BECAUSE you know what I need when I'm unsettled or worried.
I love you BECAUSE of your endless support to my passions. Remember in 2007 when I spent £300 on beads for my beading craze and you didn't mind? Haha.
I love you BECAUSE you know how much Sprinkle of Glitter means to me and hold it in high regard.
I love you BECAUSE in 9 years you have never made me feel less than I am.
I love you BECAUSE you sleep in the pinkest bedroom, just because you know it makes me happy.
I love you BECAUSE of the Father you are to Darcy.
I love you BECAUSE you continually and diligently try your best at work, every day, even when it's exhausting and frustrating.
I love you BECAUSE you put up with my mental ideas. Like the time I wanted to paint the bathroom gold or the time I wanted a loft conversion.
I love you BECAUSE you read all the links I send you to blog posts I've enjoyed.
I love you BECAUSE you let me sleep in the car even though you'd probably like some company.
I love you BECAUSE you don't mind how many makeup products I leave ALL OVER the house.
I love you BECAUSE despite me being a meanie more often than I should, you still love me back.
Whoever it is you're saying, 'I love you' to, I'd encourage you to add a 'because' on there and strengthen your sentiments so much more.
Apologies for being so emosh, this post was probably more for me that you but I feel really good for writing it all down. Next step - saying it!
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