Merry Monday! Don't be sad that the weekend has gone, be joyful that you are privileged enough to see a new week and achieve your goals.
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This quote by Theodore Roosevelt is brilliant and something that all too often I need to remind myself of.
I think it's kind of obvious what it is saying but the jist is- if you compare what you have to people who have more (or less), you're not going to love your own stuff the most and will be less happy for it.
I am a sucker for this. You could give me the most amazing bag ever and I would be giddy with glee, then see someone with a slightly better bag and feel like mine is rubbish. Honestly, it's terrible how easily I compare myself to other people, other success, other everything. It leaves me feeling unsatisfied, unmotivated and unworthy.
Recently I have stepped back a bit from all this comparison crap (sorry for my potty mouth there) and taken stock. I focused on what really matters (which we discussed last week) and I can't tell you how much better I feel for it. I am happy with my lot. I have enough. I am fulfilled. I am fine. Knowing these things makes me feel good.
It goes without saying that nobody has everything. Your friend might have a beautiful house worthy of several pinterest boards, but she might be lonely. You might have an amazing partner and fabulous friends but live in a (what you think to be) crumby little flat. Both of you are comparing lives and neither of you are happy with what you already have.
Next time you find yourself doing this behaviour, think to yourself, 'What do I have? What do I love about my life?', and I bet you'll find it's a lot.
Stop comparing yourself to other people, it feels really rubbish. Alternatively, if you are looking at people and thinking, 'Ha! I've got better xyz than her! Hahaha!', that's no good either. Those kinds of smug or gloaty feelings are false positives. They might feel good for a few minutes but they are stemmed out of spite and don't fulfil you. Just focus on your own stuff and be glad of it.
Yes, today has been a bit preachy. If anything I'm preaching to myself who is in much need of learning this lesson this week!
Do you struggle with this too? What are you glad of in your life?
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