Monday, 18 April 2016

Motivational Monday || S3P1 || Confidence


Aloha Sprinklerinos,

Many moons ago I had a feature on this blog called, 'Motivational Monday'. Do you remember it? I would find nice quotes or typography, feature them and write a little about how they had effected me, my thoughts on them or how we could incorporate them into our week.

I ran two series of that feature for a great many weeks and then when my life chaos took over, I stopped the feature. Well, life has settled and guess what? It's back! Series three. Hello friend. So, without further ado, here is series three, post one (S3P1 in the title there) and today we're focusing on confidence.


I was at the health club (my fancy name for 'gym') with a friend last week and she said, 'Do you ever have moments where you don't feel fat and you forget about it and you just feel nice?'. I thought about it for a second and I replied, 'Always. The majority of the time I feel that way. I feel lovely', and she was surprised. Not because she thinks I'm a great fatty beast that couldn't ever feel good (I hope not anyway haha) but because she doesn't feel nice very often. It made me sad. 

Your body is only a body. It is flesh and blood and bones and gunk. Nobody will ever hate your body as much as you do and yet chances are, you think bad things about it on the regular. I bet as you read this you could instantly list three things you dislike about yourself. How quickly could you list three you love? How often do you look in the mirror and think, 'urgh my xyz looks too short/tall/fat/skinny/lumpy/flubby?'. A lot I bet. I do too. 

When I have those moments, those sad little moments where I'm so cruel, I remind myself that nobody cares, only me. Only I really think my tummy is disgusting. Why am I doing that? Why am I walking around telling my own self that I am unpleasant? It's a tummy. It's flesh. It's above my legs and below my boobs and nobody except me gives a hoot. And yet, I continue to be so demeaning. To myself. For no productive purpose. Breaking it down like that makes it seem like a really pointless thing to do. All I achieve is low self confidence and poor mental health. 

So, what if every time you point out (verbally or silently in your mind) something you dislike, you encourage yourself to point out something beautiful? I've been doing this for a while and I promise you, it makes a difference. You confidence is boosted, your burden is lightened and you start to realise you are fine, lovely in fact! There is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing disgusting about you. Your body is only a body. It is unique and perfect as it is. 

My advice to you this week, if you don't mind me offering it, is to try the 2-1 trick. If you think a bad thing about your body, note 2 good things as well. Drown out that negative little voice with a big positive one because nobody made any rules on what is beautiful so if you decide you are, then you just are. 

I'd love to hear from you what you do to help boost your self confidence and if you'd like to see more of this feature. I hope it reads ok as well, I'm helping my friend look after her newborn Daughter so I have to admit, I'm a little distracted!! 

Good luck with feeling gorgeous, you don't really need it though- you already are!

Toodlepip!

xx

48 comments:

  1. I love these positive, confidence boosting posts. This is something I think about a lot as I really want to be confident in my own skin and I'll do my best to promote self love and self confidence but I often forget or struggle to apply it to myself. I'll definitely be trying the 2-1 method as I think that will slowly make a difference. I'm looking forward to the next motivational Monday post as I'm sure it will be another goody. X

    Steph/ Love Steph x

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  2. This is so lovely, thank you, i needed this xxx

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  3. This was exactly the thing I needed to read today.
    I have a little book of things people have said to me that made me feel all "awww" and happy; especially focussing on my appearance. I like to reread that and remind myself that I am lovely and, more importantly, I am loved.

    Thank you Louise, have a fabulous monday! xxx

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  4. Such a positive message for a Monday morning - thank you Louise! I've been struggling hugely with my body confidence recently after gaining some weight and generally become less fit and healthy but you're right; no one else cares, not even my boyfriend! I need to learn to love my love handles, my muffin top, my chubby cheeks. Thank you for the Monday morning inspiration xxx

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  5. This is just perfect, will 100% use this advice Louise, every time I look in the mirror, see my reflection in a shop window, this is just what I need. Thank you so much xoxo

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  6. I'm soooo happy you're doing motivational mondays again! <3 They always make me feel all warm inside. New perspectives is everything!

    Lots of love x

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  7. I'm so happy to see this series return to your blog.
    I remember one time when I was feeling a bit down and I actually looked up your past Motivational Mondays and it forced whatever negative thoughts I had on my mind take a backseat to positivity. Sometimes all you need is kind words to change your entire day.
    I'm so happy you've made it through your "life chaos" and have settled agin. I love seeing people happy, I mean obviously I can't actually "see" you but in my mind readings someone's written thoughts gives you a nice glimpse into their life.
    I'll stop before it gets too mushy. But just know I'm very excited for this feature and happy you're happy. xx
    www.ByADane.blogspot.dk

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  8. This is so horribly true, nearly everyone berates themselves for various things about their bodies and, like you've said, we shouldn't be so cruel to ourselves as the chances are that we are the only ones who actually think that. It can be very hard to give yourself a compliment sometimes, but I'm going to try to take your advice and say something nice about myself. Thank you for this post, Louise xxx

    www.madeleineslittleblog.blogspot.co.uk

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  9. Happy Monday Louise! This is such a great message to give out at the start of the week to boost people's confidence in their bodies, including mine :) I love Motivational Mondays, I'm so glad they're back and that you're getting back to blogging! Can't wait to see future posts xxx

    Amy | hookedonthemusic.blogspot.co.uk

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  10. This was lovely Louise.

    moremindfulyou.blogspot.com

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  11. I am so glad you have started blogging again, I've been looking for blogs to read and I have loved watching your YouTube channel for a few years. You always manage to make me feel inspired and happy :)
    I have been thinking quite a lot about my weight for the past few months, I had a baby 8 months ago and gained 20 kilos during the pregnancy, I still can't fit into my old clothes. But after I started going to the gym and just getting more fit and healthy I'm feeling a lot better, the weight doesn't matter so much any more.

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  12. What a lovely post, Louise. As someone who has struggled with body image all my life I really appreciate the idea of loving your body for what it is. I'm married to a wonderful man that think I'm the most beautiful woman in the world but I still have those thoughts sometimes and I hate myself for it. They're not as often as they used to be, but they happen on occasion. I think being more positive in the morning about myself would be a lovely thing. I'm so happy you're doing Motivational Monday again, I love your writing and seeing your blog with new posts makes me giddy! I'm happy things are going well for you, Louise, you deserve all the happiness and glitter life has to offer!

    Rosegold Fox

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  13. Happy Monday! Yay! I am so glad you've decided to do these type of posts again. They're perfect for fighting away any Monday blues :) X

    THEFASHION-JUNKIE

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  14. I won't lie. This series has been hugely missed. I loved the positivity and good vibes that these posts bring. Happy Monday Louise!

    Anne's Scribbles and Doodles | Bloglovin' | Instagram

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  15. Ahhh, I followed the original series way back when and loved them - so glad they're back! I'm going through a stage of hating my body, but doing my best to change that! I'm never going to reach my idea of perfect, so it's the idea that needs to change!

    Blog of bits and bobs
    xoxo

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  16. Thank you , thank you , thank you.I had a terrible day today and this totally boosted my confidence

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  17. Congrats to your friend!! I can't wait for the next post in this series, they always make my mondays better xx
    www.blossomofhope.blogspot.com

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  18. This was...much needed. Thank you Louise! <3

    It's Me, Maggie | http://itsme-maggie.blogspot.com/

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  19. I just wrote about this on my blog! For the first time in a long time I finally feel good, just from being more positive and confident. This has brightened up my monday! Gee Thanks! x

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  20. I've just been panicking about not looking great for summer and this has helped so much :) Thanks for always being a fantastic inspiration.
    Lucy xoxo
    http://lucyannblog.blogspot.co.uk

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  21. I love this post! I've been getting quite down about my stomach recently so it's nice to hear things like this! You're so inspiring Louise xxx
    http://www.samanthafrances.co.uk

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  22. I loved this post, Louise! Although i'm a male I also have low self-confidence and berate myself whenever I look in the mirror. I especially liked when you said "Nobody will ever hate your body as much as you do" - it's so simple, yet i've never thought of it before. Thank you for sharing and i'm glad you're in a happy and confident place in your life. :)

    Aidan / www.whiteboyabroad.co.uk

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  23. This was such a lovely post! Sometimes it's easy to be sucked into the "ugh why don't I have long legs and why aren't I taller?" thoughts but in the end, those are things you can't really change!
    So glad motivational monday came back :)
    x Kenzie // Kenzieblogslife.blogspot.com

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  24. I used to get in a really bad rut of using exercise as toning and as a punishment whenever I didn't like my stomach. Now I do yoga and occasionally pilates and the whole time I try to remind myself things like "Look what my body can do!" and "I'm strong" and take it as time to explore my body and make it stronger instead of losing a couple lbs. I've found that changing exercise from a punishment to something that helps my brain and body be happier and stronger has been so helpful. Loved this post! xoxo

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  25. A lovely postive post louise to the start of the week monday to boost my self confidence I think postive thoughts but I am very happy just the way I am. I would like to see more of this feature because it is interesting to know :):) :):) xx

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  26. I'm so happy this feature is back, Louise! I can't wait to be able to read your motivations again every morning before going to class! I'm definetely going to try to compliment myself, not only this week, but for the rest of my life! Whenever I'm feeling down because of self confidence, I do my hair and makeup really nicely and them take some pictures, so I can remind myself later how beautiful I am (I know this sounds selfish but it helps me a lot). But when I'm feeling confidence I like to listen to some sexy music (like Beyonce) and dance around my room like crazy! It busts my confidence even more!

    I can't wait for the next "Motivational Monday" post!

    Karhen karhenwiltgen.blogspot.com

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  27. Louise you are honestly one of the loveliest people I have ever seen because your always so positive and motivational and also your always beautiful even if sometimes you don't think so. So what if you think your fat your you and that's what really matters and you need someone like us sprinklearinos to remind you of that.
    I wish I could go forward to the next 'Motivational Monday' post because I can't wait to see what other quotes you have for us.
    I love you Louise
    Alice
    xx

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  28. I love this post so much! In the past couple of years I have become an advocate for body positivity because I firmly believe that you will never hate yourself into loving yourself. Years of crash diets and self loathing taught me that there is no magic size that suddenly makes you go "I AM A GODDESS", the goddess like feeling comes entirely from within.

    When I need a little confidence boost, my friend told me to imagine an artist was drawing me. They would take so much care over the lumps and bumps as they drew me, they would shade in every little dimple and blemish with such love because they would know they were making something beautiful. So that's what I do now. Because I'm a work of art, just like everyone else. xxx

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  29. I needed this today, a little motivational pick me up to remind myself that I am the only one who dislikes how I look, and only I can change that! I will be starting the 2-1 challenge and although I have got better over the last few months I want to love myself a lot, and not care what anyone else thinks! Thanks Louise!xxx

    Hannah, www.cosycaitlin.com

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  30. Loved this, I've had an awful day and I just needed something like this. I love the breaking down trick, it helps me with everything. Literally everything! From friendship struggles to chores, it's my favourite little secret glitter trick ;) <3 thankyou Louise, keep making others happy and spreading glittery goodness x

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  31. I often feel like this about myself too, I like this trick I will definitely use it! Something I did was take down my full length mirror in my room (I only ever used it to criticise myself). It really helps and when I felt like I had more confidence in my body I put it back up.

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  32. YES Motivational Mondays are back and I'm so happy!!! Plus, I really needed this today. I'm going on holiday in a month and I've genuinely been feeling so miserable because I'm worried that I'm not as skinny as I'd like to be and you're right, nobody cares except me and it's ridiculous. Thank you, god I wish we were friends in real life! x

    The perks of being a hipster blog

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  33. I love your Motivational Monday blog posts! I'm so glad you're blogging again.
    :) Alice
    www.alicemanfrida.com

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  35. I started doing the 2 for 1 thing a while back and all of a sudden my confidence has just grown and I feel so much happier all the time! I'm so glad you're sharing this xo

    emsirose.blogspot.com

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  36. Really needed to read this today. Often it's difficult to be positive.

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  37. I would love to see more of these sorts of posts as I have a constant battle with my body at the moment. I have lost a lot of weight but still don't seem to appreciate the body I have. Keep the body positivity coming chick!

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  38. Thank you for this encouragement!

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  39. That is so encouraging! It's so easy to get all caught up in the self hate and forget a body is just a body, and a tummy is just a tummy. Thanks Louise! Many times I've thought too, oh I just want to be normal, I just want my body to not be an issue. As if the only way to do that is losing weight. Truth is, it's a mental state, not a body shape.

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  40. I love this post, because as you said, it reminds me that I am the only one who really cares. Thank you for writing it, I'll definitely try the 2-1 rule next time I feel down :)

    theamandaway.blogspot.com

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  42. Yess i'm so glad your starting another series! Great pic to start the series off with.. it's so important i'm trying to work on this daily and slowly i'm becoming more comfortable with who i am :) i look foward to your next one of these xx

    www.veronicabizzarri.blogspot.co.uk

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