Many moons ago I had a feature on this blog called, 'Motivational Monday'. Do you remember it? I would find nice quotes or typography, feature them and write a little about how they had effected me, my thoughts on them or how we could incorporate them into our week.
I ran two series of that feature for a great many weeks and then when my life chaos took over, I stopped the feature. Well, life has settled and guess what? It's back! Series three. Hello friend. So, without further ado, here is series three, post one (S3P1 in the title there) and today we're focusing on confidence.
I was at the health club (my fancy name for 'gym') with a friend last week and she said, 'Do you ever have moments where you don't feel fat and you forget about it and you just feel nice?'. I thought about it for a second and I replied, 'Always. The majority of the time I feel that way. I feel lovely', and she was surprised. Not because she thinks I'm a great fatty beast that couldn't ever feel good (I hope not anyway haha) but because she doesn't feel nice very often. It made me sad.
Your body is only a body. It is flesh and blood and bones and gunk. Nobody will ever hate your body as much as you do and yet chances are, you think bad things about it on the regular. I bet as you read this you could instantly list three things you dislike about yourself. How quickly could you list three you love? How often do you look in the mirror and think, 'urgh my xyz looks too short/tall/fat/skinny/lumpy/flubby?'. A lot I bet. I do too.
When I have those moments, those sad little moments where I'm so cruel, I remind myself that nobody cares, only me. Only I really think my tummy is disgusting. Why am I doing that? Why am I walking around telling my own self that I am unpleasant? It's a tummy. It's flesh. It's above my legs and below my boobs and nobody except me gives a hoot. And yet, I continue to be so demeaning. To myself. For no productive purpose. Breaking it down like that makes it seem like a really pointless thing to do. All I achieve is low self confidence and poor mental health.
So, what if every time you point out (verbally or silently in your mind) something you dislike, you encourage yourself to point out something beautiful? I've been doing this for a while and I promise you, it makes a difference. You confidence is boosted, your burden is lightened and you start to realise you are fine, lovely in fact! There is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing disgusting about you. Your body is only a body. It is unique and perfect as it is.
My advice to you this week, if you don't mind me offering it, is to try the 2-1 trick. If you think a bad thing about your body, note 2 good things as well. Drown out that negative little voice with a big positive one because nobody made any rules on what is beautiful so if you decide you are, then you just are.
I'd love to hear from you what you do to help boost your self confidence and if you'd like to see more of this feature. I hope it reads ok as well, I'm helping my friend look after her newborn Daughter so I have to admit, I'm a little distracted!!
Good luck with feeling gorgeous, you don't really need it though- you already are!