Aloha Sprinklerinos,
What a week it was last week! I shall have to do a post on it full of pictures to share it all. Until then, let's lift our Monday morning spirits and look ahead to the next 7 days with positivity and excitement.
This is a lesson I have learnt and continue to learn the hard way. You know those mistakes that you make over and over again? Well this is mine. I find it very hard to let go of friendships and always try to save them or see the best in the other person, even if they are basically, idiots to me.
In the times when I have stopped chasing love, affection and attention, I have felt so much calmer and respected myself a whole lot more. The moment you stop chasing things from people who are never going to give it, you are much more aware of the people in your life who are standing round you with everything you want, offering to give it to you in bountiful amounts. The moment you stop wasting your time on people who don't care about you, you can give so much more to those who do. You may even find that the moment you stop throwing away your energy on people who never cared, they notice the love and fun and kindness you are giving your real friends and have a change of heart.
I am so lucky with the people and support networks I have in my life and I think it's really important that I don't ever loose sight of those in minutes when I feel unloved or lonely. It's only a state of mine, not a reality.
So, the message today is, identify your good and great relationships and nurture them. Identify your non-starter relationships, smile peacefully and stop worrying about them.
What do you think? Have you experienced anything like this before?
Previously...
Toodlepip!
xx
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I love your motivational Monday posts Louise very AWESOME!
ReplyDeleteI have experienced this pretty much between the ages of 16-20 but as soon as my health started to decline I realised I didn't need to spend so much time trying make a friendship work and have found that altough this means I don't have hundreds of friends, I have a few friends that I know would drop everything to be with me if I needed them and they are the only type of friends I need :).
xoxo
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I think this is one of the best lessons in life that probably every single person will experience. Love your motivational Monday Louise, can't wait for next week's MM. xx
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Such great posts, Louise! Love them so much!x
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Love this post, so so true...
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L O V E your motivation posts Louise!:) This quote is something most of us need to learn to live by! :) xxx
ReplyDeleteShabby Chic and Tea♥
Motivational Monday is my fave <3 heheheehehehe xx
ReplyDeleteI needed this. Thank you!!!
ReplyDeleteDon't make someone a priority if they only make you an option!
ReplyDeleteAMEN!
DeleteI've just recently started reading your blog posts, and now will never stop. I always leave them smiling and with a feeling of inspiration. So I just wanted to say thanks! :)
ReplyDeleteWonderful words of wisdom, Louise. I went through a rough year last year where I was always chasing people and friendships, only making my own feelings hurt and my anxiety worse. But when I finally cut out all of the negative people in my life I was able to grow into my skin more and realize some things that I needed or wanted to do. Negativity is never helpful.
ReplyDeleteThanks for this post, it just reminds me why I made the changes that I did :)
mysmallrayofsunshine.blogspot.com
I love how all of your posts are well thought out and inspiring. This is such an awesome quote to remember, especially for us girls (Girl Power! haha). Sending love from the US,
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Crystal's Beauty Corner
I really need this tonight, because I'm going through this sort of situation. And like you, it's a mistake that I've made over and over in my life, especially in high school. Thanks for the motivation, love <3
ReplyDeleteLouise, this is the story of my life! I'm the worst at letting go of friendships and with Facebook, it was making that harder. It was so obvious that people were only "spying" on my life but not really taking the time to speak to me personally and ask how I was doing regardless of my constant attempts to keep in touch. I recently got rid of facebook and not to sound dramatic or anything but it's THE BEST THING I'VE EVER DONE. :) I love your Motivational Mondays so, so much.
ReplyDeleteI got rid of Facebook a year ago and it was the best thing I ever did! Especially for my self confidence ;)
DeleteI love your Monday posts. They are so refreshing, and it makes me look forward to Monday, because I feel like you'll be there to teach me something new. :)
ReplyDeleteI also got super excited about this one because I used this picture as well on one of my blogposts! :)
I am also looking forward to the February Bedroom Challenge, and when you replied to my comment on YouTube, well let's just say I got a bit excited. (plus I lost my voice today and my mom didn't know what was going on when I was pointing at the screen to your reply!)
Anyways, I hope you are having a great Monday :)
Elle
www.ellexbelle.blogspot.com
I really needed this, I used to be really close to this girl but she always made me feel bad about myself and said horrible things about our friends, I've tried so many times to see the best in her and just get on but I've finally spoken up and this made me realise I did the right thing. Thanks so much Louise!
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omg i don't think i could love a blogpost more, i love how positive you are xx
ReplyDeletethat's a cute quote :)
ReplyDeleteMotivational indeed~
geekypinkness.blogspot.ca
I love your motivation Mondays.
ReplyDeleteActually i do the same. Im the worst at letting go of a friendship. But i need to stop chasing love, affection and attention. Im sure life would be easier then. I love your motivation Mondays. :)))
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One of my favourite quotes ever. You're posts are so interesting ❤
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I really needed this quote right about now after going through a really bad relationship, I love your posts Louise!
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I love these posts! They always make me see things in a different perspective :)
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Haha I love motivational mondays! It's a great post to start the week :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Louise, for sharing this!
Great post! :D
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scribblesofvalerie.blogspot.com
This is a great quote and such a lovely post! I find it difficult sometimes to let go of friendships even when the other person isn't nice or just not bothering! Thank you for this post - I love them! :) xx
ReplyDeleteThis is so true! Dont waste time with people who don't care about you and also just do things you really want to! Don't do things because you think you have to!
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Love these posts and this is such a nice quote! xxx
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This is something I have struggled with since I can remember...this year though I have turned a corner and this post just put a smile on my face remembering that I have :) Thanks Louise x
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Nothing like a bit of Louise to brighten your day and restore my faith in the human race!
ReplyDeleteI absolutely love this quote! It really makes sense. Thanks you for sharing, I love your motivational posts.
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www.glamupeveryday.com
Love this little motivational post. Great start to the week and so true :)
ReplyDeleteLove Emily xx
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That is a really lovely motivational post hun xx
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I'd agree that it's important to not spend your time worrying if people don't accept or appreciate your love, but I think we need to remember to love anyway, and not push people away :)
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I love your motivational posts they give me a much needed boost on a Monday morning. I think we all need to be reminded about this every now and then :)
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I found that when I was in high school I wanted to be accepted by people that I would 'chase' and put loads of effort into friendships that were just dreadful and they just weren't friends. However it has made me appreciate the amazing friends I have now & I can see early enough in a friendship whether it's going to be worth it overall.
ReplyDeleteI love these Monday morning posts :)
http://charleyandhermind.blogspot.co.uk/
a really good post, love your motivational monday posts !
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Agree agree agree agree... I have learnt it in a hard way too!
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Love this post! And it's so so flipping true! xxx
ReplyDeleteLove this, couldn't agree more!xx
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So true! No point in wasting time and energy on someone who doesn't care about you! I love reading your motivational Monday posts, especially on days when I'm hungover and struggling through work :)
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This is so relevant to me! I love your motivational Monday posts Louise :) xxx
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I identify with this so much! It's so true that you should never have to fight for someone's attention - unfortunately I learned that the hard way too. If you're important to someone, they will give you attention. Thanks the reminder of how important this is!
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Lovely post, I love waking up on a Monday and reading these posts xx
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I love these posts!! Xx
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Oh Louise!!! I need a friend like you! :)
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walkingthroughthecitystreets.blogspot.com
I love this Louise, and it has come at a good time for me too. For me it also speaks volumes that it shouldn't always be me doing the chasing - even when it's people who I love and love me back I know I would have much more self respect if I stop myself being the one who makes all the plans and pushes for their company and maybe be a little less weak seeking their approval.
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aw louise I love you for doing these posts :-)
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This is great! I know exactly what this feels like, I waste so much energy on people who aren't worth it and who would rather show me a hardship than a good time. Thanks for the wake up call Louise! I hope I can turn a new leaf and let go of the people who aren't worth my time. After all, life is too awesome to waste your time on someone who isn't worth it! Thank you for the nudge in the right direction. :-))
ReplyDeletevery inspirational xx
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ReplyDeleteI like this post ;)
That is sooo true Louise!!
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Annabelle
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your posts are so inspirational :)
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely post :)
ReplyDeleteLove Charlotte xxxx
http://charlottesconfashions.blogspot.co.uk
Love reading your Motivational Monday posts, always bring a smile to my face :)
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.Georgina Clare.
Your motivational monday posts always cheer me up on my sluggish mondays :D
ReplyDeleteLove these posts!
ReplyDeleteI've always said I'd rather have a few close friends and lots of acquaintances rather than lots of 'friends' - I hate when people go where the most attention and snub others.
Katie xo
http://sugarfixxbeauty.com
I used to be like that and got screwed over so bad 'cos I was sucha a push over! Now I think I've gone the other way a bit too much and push people away... I find it better to have fewer but better friends, quality not quantity! X
ReplyDeleteLove motivational Mondays :) they're the best
ReplyDeleteLauren
Fashionswirls.blogspot.com
Strangely this is me all over, and yes I have cut ties, but then you dont stop thinking about hte good time you had with the friend or person, but its your past to remise about. I do love your motivational mondays. Makes you think about the good things yo uhave in your life, worth living for. :)
ReplyDeletePipp xx
http://pippjones281190.blogspot.co.uk
But what do you do when you realize nobody calls... nobody cares...?
ReplyDeleteI'm thankfull that I have my husband and family, because without them... Nobody apperently likes a sick person who doesn't have the enery to to exiting things all the time... Is that all there was?
sadly I no longer speak to my mother or any of her family. my dad died when I was 18 and since then I have been fighting a losing battle with them all, they just weren't interested in me or getting to know who I was as I was growing up and becoming myself! particularly when I left home and came to Bristol for uni. My mum remarried and my sister just always made my life hard and in the end I just decided to take myself out of the situation (obviously there's a lot more to it than what I've said) because I couldn't make them happy and in trying I was making myself unhappy. it's true what they say; you can choose your friends but not your family. although I love them all very much, it became clear to me that it wasn't reciprocated (or at least that's how they made me feel)
ReplyDeleteanywho, I totally get what you're saying, it's happened with friends too. you're very wise for one so young!
This was great to read right now as I dont have many friends and my relationship is just this-me wanting attention and him not wanting to give it. I am at a loss of what to do right now... :(
ReplyDeletethis post was very inspirational to me.
ReplyDeletei know what you are talking about n i have done this for so long
that sometimes it takes over my life.
i was with a boy for 6 yrs an i put alot of my attention an effort into the
relationship for him to just say okay bye i dont want to talk to you anymore
literally ..
but i guesswe just need to realize that we cant make some people the center of our universe an that we need to learn when to just give up an behappy on our own
i think it's a scary and brave thing to do, to let go of friendships. I sort of replay and replay over and over in my mind moments spent with person A or B and it's easy to then think that life sucks. But, we have to look at the greater picture, and just let things flow themselves :)
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